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My journey in IFS has been transformational, and for a lot of my clients. For me....

1. It has revealed more confidence in going for what I want (and deserving to get it) be this rest or success.

2. Physical intimacy - A big one for me causing a strain on my marriage, IFS has been a huge part of healing from trauma, beliefs and other blocks to receiving love and pleasure.

3. Self worth. As a mum at home the first year I felt like I wasn't contributing as well sometimes 'jailed' because without finaciical independance. This was massive to unpack as I was missing moments of joy in receiving and being supported. I now feel such reverance for what I do as a mum.

The relationships I now have with my self worth, intimacy beliefs and confidence are there.

I would love to nourish your realtionship with your Self and wonderful parts, please get in touch if you are curious or see my website

I bring these to you with what great possibioliltes IFS brings us.

It's a joy bringing this work to more and more people

3 examples where IFS and my relationship to Self (inner essense of confidence and creativity) exploded my creativity:

1. In design work it's a very mediative place, I remember sitting at McQ Alexander McQueen in one of the more stressful moments knowing I had to create a design in a few hours. I could notice the panic, but I had awareness then (although I didn't know of IFS) of how I create and the connection with inspiration and ease meant getting that idea. Other factors were - support of a team, knowing in that moment I could do it and was the best person to be able to do it and strangely a feeling of I had nothing to lose (not a feeling I relate to often).

2. when I first started WE-Resonate (now Lizzie Clark) it was because I had just birthed Elsie my eldest. I had gained this amazing relationship with my own capabilities (raising a baby!!) and distance from self critic and doubt. I had a connection with Self which enabled me to create collections of dresses, do pop ups events and all!

3. In the last few years exploring my own art, I started to notice after a therapy session doing IFS art ideas would stream into my awareness. I was working on my worth, the luxury of being able to create and belief you can get paid for it.

I wonder how you have experienced Self? Was there a big event that catapulted you into it or over time have you found more trust in yourself?

When someone asks you what you do, it always felt good to have a one job answer. WHY? Im sure part of me didn't want to take up there time, but how long would like rally take... 'I am a designer and illustrator for private clients, I also create dresses, artwork and prints for my own studio as well as a therapy based coach, which I adore!' Yes, it might make there minds twitch but ah it feels so good not to box myself into one thing.

I always loved doing my dresses but allowing myself to evolve and be expansive feels wonderful. I wonder if you feel like you'll like to try something new and what if you could include all of you in your intro/website/capabilties.

My mum like to remind me I'm doing too much but I don't say I'm doing all these things all the time (and btw I'm an almost full time mum of 2.) But I know myself now, I know my mind loves the different ideas going on. When I need to focus I do, and with joy, because of the holistic nature of my work.

And plus, words could never fulling sum up who we are. Labels aren't who we are.

what you love about the piece

I think that whereas a therapist initially may have a focus on something like "this person is/feels stuck and it relates to something in her/his/their past, and they want to get to be 'more normal'," I as a coach initially have a focus on something more like "this person is/feels basically normal and successful and also is/feels stuck in the present and wants to find a way to move forward." Traditionally, then, coaching has had an emphases of becoming not a "parts detector" but a "beliefs detector" (without reference to a part or parts) and a "stories detector," then of challenging (as playfully as possible) those beliefs and stories, without reference to how they might have come about. -
Mark H.

fashion circle Had soeaker whos ain was to raisie awareness and action against fast fashion. to me it felt old and treating the symptoms of the root cause. Root cause being 

ost event clearing up with Elly from interlude:

And how we help children grow up without this coping strategy (shopping)

the i get home and hear how elsie feels

In fact maybe we start there - how do we see other people generally? what if we saw every as different, everyone with a heart of love (however this might be suppressed), with no perceived idea of who they are going to be.

Why is it easier to see kids with love? What if we saw adults as kids, and marvel at their being? try it. I started seeing my husband as his young self and it brought so much compassion for him. after all we are all living from what we learnt in those younger years. I saw he needed more love, affection and care, he needed to be heard. I was willing to hear my children, could I be willing to hear my husband?

And how do we hear without burning out?..

Burn out

1. We missed what we needed to do. what our bodies and minds needed to stay in homeostasis (well- being). this might have been a culture (in work or even as full time mum 'expectations')

2. We learnt somewhere that others needs are more important that ours

3. We might also have learnt that by being there for others we have achieved/are enough/have a purpose/ reason for being.

So how do we not burn out?

to 1. We listen. We commit to listening to what we are feeling and therefore what we need. this practise can start at , I need a jumper Im cold to I need someone to listen to me or I need to be able to say no, I need permission to do nothing is a big and beautiful one.

to 2. this is personal and sometimes universal. Perhaps a caregiver gives more to others than themselves and we learnt it there. Perhaps when you were young you were told to share and that your needs weren't important. so you can acknowledge this and choose to see you ends are important.

to 3. this feels like burnout, notice and start reframing your time. This may need you to say "I love you but no' knowing when you have cared for yourself you can return stronger.